Priorities

Ja, it has been a while

since we've heard from certain people.

I heard them say:

"YES, we WILL stay in contact".

"We will MISS YOU", they said.

"We are SAD that you guys are leaving", they said.

Family

Friendship

Love

We take it all for granted sometimes.

And we love to cherish

Family

Friendship

Love

in our lives.

As long as it is not too much "work".

We like it easy.

We like it simple.

We like it uncomplicated.

And yes, we are all so involved and busy in our own lives.

We get SWALLOWED by our own lives, it seems.

In times of EASY and endless possibilities to communicate

it SHOULDN't BE

too hard to

KEEP IN TOUCH, right?!

No matter how many miles we are appart...

Family is not something you can choose, is it?

OR...

CAN we choose Family?

Are only kinship and ancestors

connecting us to our RELATIVES?

Is it about bloodlines or is it about

FEELING CONNECTED

to someone.

No matter how many miles part us from that someone...

Friendship is made so easily these days, so quickly.

I think we are even abusing the word

FRIENDSHIP

these days.

We often reduce, begrade, belittle, deminish this word in it's true meaning, don't we?

Sometimes we say these words (friend, love) too fast,

use them without depth.

We say:

"my friend"

to someone we just met 1 day ago...

Same as a lot of (especially younger) people say:

"I love you"

to someone they met 1 day ago...

Aristotle said:

"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies."

John Churton Collins said:

"In prosperity our friends know us; in adversity we know our friends."

Saint Jerome said:

"The friendship that can cease has never been real."

We DO get swallowed by our own lives!

But we also have a choice to change that.

WE DO have that power IN US!

At any point in our lives!

It is up to US to

ACT.

It is up to US to set

PRIORITIES

I MYSELF

did not know the true meaning of friendship for a long time.

Until I moved.

Until I decided to go and live someplace else for the first time.

Years ago.

Until I "decided" to be who I am.

Years ago.

You do get a feeling for it though, over the years.

I get better in recognizing true friendship.

I get also better in recognizing superficialness.

After my first move

it was

HURTING.

I was

SAD.

But I decided to change things for ME.

I decided: "I won't allow life to swallow me too!"

There is a TEACHING for ME in everything.

I am learning.

I am turning it around.

I get better in understanding.

I also get better in not to blame.

I also get better in loving unconditionally.

I get better in staying in touch.

I also get better in letting go.

A good friend used to say:

"We will be able to gather ONE handful of true friends throughout our lifes, if we are lucky."

AND I AM LUCKY ALREADY!

It is all about PRIORITIES, isn't it.

:))

ANOTHER THOUGHT (or more)...

Do I really have to define/analyze the word

FRIENDSHIP?

Do I have to

ANALYZE

every relationship I have with someone?

Is it even possible to measure

TRUE FRIENDSHIP?

Does true friendship need

PROOF?

Do I have to attach

LABELS

to everything in life?

Do I have to put

WORK

into every relationship/friendship?

I do believe I want to

NOURISH

true friendship in life, like rare and fragile flower...

I also believe

that this special connection with another soul is

given by universe.

It is or it is not.

True friendship only knows one color,

there are no shades.

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