Ja, it has been a while
since we've heard from certain people.
I heard them say:
"YES, we WILL stay in contact".
"We will MISS YOU", they said.
"We are SAD that you guys are leaving", they said.
We take it all for granted sometimes.
And we love to cherish
in our lives.
As long as it is not too much "work".
We like it easy.
We like it simple.
We like it uncomplicated.
And yes, we are all so involved and busy in our own lives.
We get SWALLOWED by our own lives, it seems.
In times of EASY and endless possibilities to communicate
it SHOULDN't BE
too hard to
KEEP IN TOUCH, right?!
No matter how many miles we are appart...
Family is not something you can choose, is it?
CAN we choose Family?
Are only kinship and ancestors
connecting us to our RELATIVES?
Is it about bloodlines or is it about
No matter how many miles part us from that someone...
Friendship is made so easily these days, so quickly.
I think we are even abusing the word
We often reduce, begrade, belittle, deminish this word in it's true meaning, don't we?
Sometimes we say these words (friend, love) too fast,
use them without depth.
to someone we just met 1 day ago...
Same as a lot of (especially younger) people say:
"I love you"
to someone they met 1 day ago...
"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies."
John Churton Collins said:
"In prosperity our friends know us; in adversity we know our friends."
Saint Jerome said:
"The friendship that can cease has never been real."
We DO get swallowed by our own lives!
But we also have a choice to change that.
WE DO have that power IN US!
At any point in our lives!
It is up to US to
It is up to US to set
did not know the true meaning of friendship for a long time.
Until I moved.
Until I decided to go and live someplace else for the first time.
Until I "decided" to be who I am.
You do get a feeling for it though, over the years.
I get better in recognizing true friendship.
I get also better in recognizing superficialness.
After my first move
But I decided to change things for ME.
I decided: "I won't allow life to swallow me too!"
There is a TEACHING for ME in everything.
I am learning.
I am turning it around.
I get better in understanding.
I also get better in not to blame.
I also get better in loving unconditionally.
I get better in staying in touch.
I also get better in letting go.
A good friend used to say:
"We will be able to gather ONE handful of true friends throughout our lifes, if we are lucky."
AND I AM LUCKY ALREADY!
It is all about PRIORITIES, isn't it.
ANOTHER THOUGHT (or more)...
Do I really have to define/analyze the word
Do I have to
every relationship I have with someone?
Is it even possible to measure
Does true friendship need
Do I have to attach
to everything in life?
Do I have to put
into every relationship/friendship?
I do believe I want to
true friendship in life, like rare and fragile flower...
I also believe
that this special connection with another soul is
given by universe.
It is or it is not.
True friendship only knows one color,
there are no shades.